This is the sort of attitude Iām coming to as well - a big enabling factor has been designing the big building blocks of my life so that it will be fine if I never find a partner. Proximity to friends and family are key there.
Hahaha! Try being 66 years old and looking at dating apps š Iāve never seen so many ugly men with issues! I finally said to hell with it. I have a few āboy toysā I can call on if needed but at this point I think Iāll settle for staying single!!
Yes Lucy! I also wasted time going on dates I knew wouldn't be right but now I filter hard so my dating life feels like a lot of sitting at home. Sometimes I wobble and think I'm doing it wrong and people (with zero experience) often advise me to lower my standards and I'm like... I wish I could but I can't force it. Anyway I wrote about how dating with an open mind doesn't work: https://open.substack.com/pub/tiffanyphilippou/p/dating-with-an-open-mind-doesnt-work?r=2d0v&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Hi Lily, so glad to hear you are creating them. I think everyone needs to have those building blocks in place regardless of whether they have a partner or not.
Thank you, Tiff, and I really like your post too. Youāre definitely doing nothing wrong. I trust my instincts now and feel far less FOMO / āwhat ifā and itās such a relief.
"Instead of saying no to dating apps, Iām saying no on dating apps."
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Yessss!!!
This is the sort of attitude Iām coming to as well - a big enabling factor has been designing the big building blocks of my life so that it will be fine if I never find a partner. Proximity to friends and family are key there.
Also, do you have a recipe for apple and cinnamon cake? š¤¤
Hahaha! Try being 66 years old and looking at dating apps š Iāve never seen so many ugly men with issues! I finally said to hell with it. I have a few āboy toysā I can call on if needed but at this point I think Iāll settle for staying single!!
Love that you have boy toys you can call!
ššš they can come in handy!
Yes Lucy! I also wasted time going on dates I knew wouldn't be right but now I filter hard so my dating life feels like a lot of sitting at home. Sometimes I wobble and think I'm doing it wrong and people (with zero experience) often advise me to lower my standards and I'm like... I wish I could but I can't force it. Anyway I wrote about how dating with an open mind doesn't work: https://open.substack.com/pub/tiffanyphilippou/p/dating-with-an-open-mind-doesnt-work?r=2d0v&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Thanks for writing this ā¤ļø
Above is the recipe. Itās definitely not bread! More like a Danish pastry cake. Itās delicious!
Now youāve done it! I have to make this cake now!!!
https://bromabakery.com/apple-fritter-bread/
Hi Lily, so glad to hear you are creating them. I think everyone needs to have those building blocks in place regardless of whether they have a partner or not.
Thank you, Tiff, and I really like your post too. Youāre definitely doing nothing wrong. I trust my instincts now and feel far less FOMO / āwhat ifā and itās such a relief.
I loved how authentic you are here and on the podcast. For me, you saved the best for last on the podcast.
"I think if we can express ourselves and be vulnerable, we will better understand each other and build better relationships."
That is what Lucy is about :)